When you asked about being on her Residence application before, I told you you would need to have a lot of very strong evidence of having lived together for 12 months before she went to NZ, and of keeping up contact in the meantime. If you have actually got A LOT of evidence, now you have thought about it, she could keep you on her application. If you have NOT realistically got much evidence, then in that case, it's correct that keeping you on there would just slow up her being granted Residence, and she would probably in the end have to agree to taking you off the application in order to get her own visa.
If she has a lot of partnership evidence, and is going to include you, but doesn't need the points for your qualification, then she doesn't need to mention it, and you don't need to submit the IQA, so you don't need to wait for it.
If you don't have enough partnership evidence of living together before she went to NZ, then if you want her to sponsor you for a work visa
https://www.immigration.govt.nz/new-...s-visa-holders after she is a resident, you will have to find a way of starting to collect evidence of living together (because the previous time won't count if you can't prove it). You would have to get two to three months' evidence of living together (evidence like that mentioned on those old threads I linked to on your other thread).
Otherwise, if you have suitable qualifications, you could try to get a NZ job offer, or residence under SMC in your own right.