Although we're no longer living near Christchurch, I feel the need to contribute to this discussion.....I've had a few vino's so excuse me in advance if I ramble on a bit
We hopped onto a plane to Auckland, 3 days after the September earthquake. During and after the earthquake we had been extremely calm and organised and just did what needed to be done. Our kids were initially fine as we had practiced what we'd do in an earthquake, and they coped extremely well. As soon as it was daylight they wanted us to find their books on earthquakes & volcanoes, to discuss the pictures and try and make sense of what had happened. However, after 3 days of aftershocks and disturbed sleep (we were 2km away from the epicentre of the 7.1 quake) they became terribly distressed.....in fact hysterical, to the point where we slept in the car. They were too scared to go inside the house the next morning, not even to use the toilet, so as OH's office was also damaged we got on a plane to Auckland within 2 hours. By the time we arrived in Auckland a couple of hours later our youngest child (then 3 1/2) had developed severe flu like symptoms so we rushed him to the Dr's, whi advised us it was actually a stress reaction and we were told that he was at a difficult age, being old enough to clearly remember the experience but not yet able to articulate his feelings well or ask the right questions to make any sense of it. The Dr also spent a loooong time explaining to me about delayed stress reactions that can happen weeks or even months later, and not to overlook any odd behaviour my children might suddenly develop. It took us over a month of him sleeping with us before he would start sleeping in his own bed again and he now has a need to know exactly where every family member is each day, or he becomes very anxious. He also refers to our old house as 'the shakey house'. Now, 6 months later, my oldest child (nearly 8) is terrified of the dark. So much so that she has to sleep with her bedroom curtains open in case the power (and landing light) goes out, and she won't even walk from her bedroom lightswitch to her bed in the semi-dark. She had frequent nightmares for the first couple of months too, but these became less frequent with time. My middle child (nearly 6) hasn't been able to go to the toilet by himself without someone else close by...the result of going through a large aftershock while in the bathroom. He has finally got to the point where he no longer needs a 'toilet buddy' at school, but is still too scared to go by himself once it gets dark in the evening.
After all this, our instinct is to protect our kids from further upset by shielding them away from news of the recent earthquake. But this isn't an ideal world, and we can't wrap our kids in cotton wool. They have talked about it at school and are asking for donations, and our kids go to St. Johns, where this week they have done an impromptu session on dealing with emergencies, which my kids have found very reassuring. We have been very careful to talk to our children honestly, but sensitively about what has happened. They know people many people have died and are injured. They know many friends now have damaged homes and many of the favourite places we used to visit are now rubble in the streets. They've asked a lot of difficult questions that they didn't ask first time around, as well as feeling the need to discuss their (still very vivid) memories of last September. We've shown them pictures of the ruined Cathedral and the streets in the CBD.....however we will not let them watch the news on TV because it is too graphic.