Originally Posted by
JandM
This is sad, as it sounds as if it is the first time cold reality has shoved itself in your face. Sorry to have to tell you, this need to prove your worth will meet you at all levels, everywhere, all through your life. We ALL have to swallow our pride and jump through hoops. Please read what follows calmly.
Many people who need a job, not just you, know that they're good. An employer isn't a philanthropist so he wants a sure yield first time off. How's he supposed to tell, from all the applicants he's never seen before, ALL telling him, 'Take me - I'm the best,' which one to have? He would like to be sure he's not going to waste time on someone who will let him down. That's why he wants to hear from another businessman who has paid wages to this worker before, that Mr X turned up on time, week in week out, was decent to co-workers and customers, didn't have unexplained absences, wasn't a clumsy idiot, and didn't skive or pass items from stock under the counter for free to his mates. That's the kind of thing that is in the mind of someone who wants you to have a work-record he can check up on, to minimize his risk.
'But I've got a degree...'
Sad to say, having a degree is no guarantee to the rest of the world of anything but that the applicant managed to study and pass exams, within an environment focused on getting him, the student, through the system. The world of work has wholly other priorities, and will be focused on the needs of the business. Yes, the new graduate applicant has knowledge, and maybe skills, but can he, and will he (will he be able to) apply them for the employer's purposes? Risk for a boss here, too, which he would rather cut down by hearing from a previous employer.
I might as well give you the other bad news about holding degrees. There are many bosses out there with basic jobs to offer who don't WANT to employ graduates. Either they've previously had mouthy knowalls who annoyed everybody by telling them how to do their job (which is a bad idea even when you can see with half an eye that the whole system could be improved by x, y and z - it's like going into someone else's house as a visitor, and rearranging their furniture while they're out of the room), or maybe they're insecure, and would rather not have an intellectual around. Go for a job for someone like this, and they may actually give you feedback, like 'I'm sure you could do this work, but you're overqualified. You'd be bored. You'd no sooner learn the ropes than you'd leave to find something more interesting.' We, the graduate, may well wish that they'd let US worry about coping with boredom, as our higher priority is to get the money to keep ourself fed, but that's not the point for them.
Yes, for you, it's a Catch-22 situation. And it's painful. Really, the only way to get a start is to keep trying, with self-confidence, because you KNOW you have worth, but demonstrating humility, because you are dependent on other people, who don't owe you a thing. 'Let me come in for a week for nothing, to show you I can do the job well' is an approach that has worked for some. It CAN lead to an actual paid position, but even if it doesn't, if you do well, it can get you a reference to show at the next place you try. Or, if you take part in some activities (e.g. hobbies, sports) where you can meet locals on neutral ground, personal acquaintance can help you to an opening. If you've, say, played on a team alongside someone for several weeks, and shown yourself to be a decent human being, that person is more likely to pass the word if they hear their neighbour is looking for a man to (whatever). I KNOW New Zealand works very much on the principle of knowing someone who knows someone, and I hear that Australia is somewhat the same. Small populations have more connections than we Europeans are used to, and good news about you (or bad) will follow you easily.