Hello everyone. Thank you for all your responses (even the childish ones with nothing actually nothing informative in them.)
I understand a few of you are confused. And are judging me at the same time. Please let me clear a few things up.
I am a NZ born and breed citizen thats why im writing to what I thought my fello country men and women.
I am one to believe in hard work can make anything work. Thats why I went to Denmark and then continued to visit her and see her in Germany after she left. (I didnt want to give up on us so even paid for my house in Germany and hers in Denmark). Spain was a 3 week holiday the supposed last chance at love again. It was just a plot. It takes two to tango but now I have learnt that she had been pricking my condoms also for a while (i dont have this in writing unfortunately) when I was starting to lose hope in us. By the time the last straw hit it was after the holiday when we both (well me) knew there was No hope for us and to start a famliy. (which was the plan from Australia)
I apologize for not clearly stating that I wish to abandon all rights to my child. The point of this thread is to find out all my rights and not get screwed. The German government makes the father pay by percentage of his income. Other governments do it different and my statement about abandonment was just an example about what some countries do for bastard children.
Fern49 said it well... and I am totally against bringing up a child knowingly into a situation like the one im in. Its just not fair on anybody. How can it be right for a woman to have a baby and not care about it only for the purpose of monetary gain? She would be destroying 2lives. I am taking responsibility because there is nothing that can be done to turn back time and she will have the baby no matter what. Like I said I just dont want to get strung for every penny my the mother. Please dont misunderstand, I will give my child the very best and do all in my power to grow him up with all opportunities... That is an investment in life. I do not want to give 1 extra cent to a woman who has had this planned for her own benefit so she will not have to work.
I hope with this you understand a little better and thank you again for your comments especially JandM.
Carlos
Off-Shore Engineer