Samuel, I can only assume that they didn't feel you had been together long enough to issue a one year work visa initially. There are quite a few posts around at the minute about some of the difficulties in partnership visas - the interplay of power (even unwittingly) between the person who has the NZ visa and the one who wants one. I can see how that might create real pressure. If your relationship has fallen apart, then look at the job offer from Housing New Zealand. As I said, they are an accredited employer and this could be a route for you. If you believe your relationship is still alive and genuine and just struggling from the pressures of the visa situation, then apply now for your residence as a partner. This partnership option involves your partner in swearing an affidavit that the relationship is genuine etc. This is something you need to be sure about before you go through this route. If you want to send me information about your job offer (possibly by Private Message) I will see what options exist that way.