Hi everyone
My hubby moved out here 18 months ago and the children and I joined him in December 2013. Initially we settled in well. Boys started school the following February and then I found a part time job a few weeks later. My eldest son (now 11yr) then became very unhappy at school. He was being bullied by a boy in his class and struggled to make new friends. After constantly speaking with his teacher and principal and getting no where we decided to move him to a new school. Youngest son (now 9yr) however was just the opposite and didn't want to move so we now have them in 2 separate schools. I didn't think it would bother me but it is a pain. Different teacher training days, parent/teacher conferences sometime clash, that sort of thing really. Anyway after my training finished in my job I also really struggled to settle. It was call centre work and I just hated the targets and they constantly seemed to pick at me for not saying 'the correct lines'. It made me so unhappy that in June I quit. I registered with an agency and they have been finding me part time work but its been very on and off. In August I found out I was pregnant. We were told 6 years ago we couldn't have anymore children as hubby had problems. We were even referred for IVF back in the UK but decided not to go through with it as it sounded too hard and we do already have 2 boys. So it was a bit of a surprise to find out this had happened. (Happy about it though) I have been quite poorly with the pregnancy and spent December in and out of hospital. It really hit me hard having no family here to support us. Over Christmas I just broke down. I really miss my parents, sister and close friends. I have made some lovely friends here but just not the same as having my mum here. My hubby spoke to my mum about it and arranged for her to come over and surprise me. She arrived beginning of January and stayed for 3 weeks. We had the best time and it was amazing for her to see where we live etc. She went home at the beginning of the week and I am just a wreck. I have cried for pretty much most of the week and just cant seem to pick myself back up. I love living here and know deep down it is a better life for our boys but I just feel so lonely being away from my family. Feel completely torn as my hubby is just the opposite. He loves living here and has really settled. He misses his family but nothing like I do and he cant stand the thought of returning to the UK.
Has anyone else felt like this? I know I probably have my hormones playing me up too but just really struggling with everything. Everyone keeps telling me it will get easier but will it after a year already in? I would have thought by now I would be starting to feel better.
I would really appreciate any advise anyone has or if anyone else has felt the same?