Make one more post on any thread, and, as well as accessing the PM system of the forum, you will be able to open this
http://www.enz.org/forum/showthread.php?t=24859, which explains the NZ law preventing anyone except a Licensed Immigration Adviser from advising on immigration matters. As I'm not an LIA, in common with most people on the forum, I am allowed to point out relevant parts of the publicly available INZ rules, and tell people about the experiences of others. I can't tell you what to do, just show you where to look so you can make up your own mind.