Sorry But the truth is , Depression alot of us on here felt it and still feeling it . But depression wont solve the problem and will deny you the chance of thinking properly on the right thing/step to do . Alot of people has been in worse more situations . In my case my wife has being living with me for 1year and 8months in brazil going to 2 years after i was declined alot of times . you gotta take it easy and read up those links JANDM sent to you . . . i believe that you can get some suggestions in other peoples experience . Trust me, my wife doesnt like Brazil but she is ready to sacrifice and be with me until the very day we apply for a visa . My wife is young and had a good job in New zealand as she has her bachelors and masters in Education but yet she had to sacrifice when we realised its becoming so hard and depressing . So what i am saying is , get over this depression and think well ..... Delay is not Denial and denial of a visa once,twice or thrice is not forever denial . Chill and think well . I wish you the best .