Hi everyone, and all the best for the new year.
So I have a tricky situation, and I'd like some advice to how to move forward...
I'm an NZ citizen (by grant) who's been in a LDR with a British born lady living in the USA for about a year. We would desperately like to live together, become a proper couple, and the plan is that she would move here as I have a young child from a previous relationship that ties me to NZ.
The problem lies with the "living together" part of the requirement. I visited her last year, and she plans to visit me in a few months. We can provide proof that our relationship is genuine; social media conversations, pictures of us together... But the problem is that we can't actually "live" together. She can't spend long enough here to meet that criteria of actually living together, nor I there. I am fully prepared to support her, although she does intend to find work, but she doesn't meet any of the requirements on any of the skills shortage lists. Another thing that doesn't help is the age (not that it should matter!)... I'm 44 and she's 49 (50 this year), so options are limited in that she doesn't fall into the "under 30" category either! Feel like my hands are tied, and I'm not prepared to throw this relationship away because of this "technicality". Feeling utterly frustrated.
Any insight into this would be greatly appreciated.