Thank you so much for your posts. Everything you're saying is helping me to feel better and giving me hope that we still have a chance. I've been up and down all week, someone suggested character references and I thought that's a great idea (I asked NZIS if that would help and the person I was talking to said they didn't know, which depressed me), the same person referred me to the operations manual where I learned about character waivers, so I've been trying to find out about them now and I can see from your posts, that this isn't the end of the road
I haven't actually had a chance to tell the OH about any of this yet, we haven't talked since he told me his application was declined, he's working full-time, (and I phoned just a little while ago and he's had to work Saturday because he couldn't work one day this week because of the weather), so hopefully I'll get to talk to him tomorrow and tell him about all this. The most frustrating part for him I think is the thought that he can only email them (and he doesn't have access to a pc right now and with working full-time he doesn't have a lot of free time) and it seems that he's done what he thought he needed to and been told no dice and he thinks this is it. So, when I get to tell him all this I'm sure it will cheer him up considerably!!!
Maybe we can discuss him coming over on a visitors visa and we can both go in to NZIS office and talk to someone.
Again, I thank you so much for your posts and if anyone else has anything more to add I'd love to hear it
I'd still like to know if there is a way he can apply for a character waiver or if that is only an option if NZIS ask you for information so they can consider it.